I was standing in the kitchen last night (early this morning, actually) at 2 a.m., making noodles and fighting a raging case of insomnia. I was listening to the new music releases on Spotify (which was utterly depressing, don’t do it) with headphones on. I was wearing nothing but a long sleeved, plaid flannel button up shirt, and my panties. I had no pockets and needed my hands to make noodles so I put my phone down my panties for safe keeping. Don’t judge me.
My panties have done a lot of shit over the years but this was a new one. They started ringing and not a normal ring tone. It was that weird Facebook Messenger ringtone when someone calls you wifi to wifi that sounds like a woodpecker playing percussion after a really bad trip. Don’t hold me to that, that’s just my take on it. I’ve never actually met a woodpecker and I’ve never been on a bad trip. Bad hangovers but no bad trips.
But I digress yet again.
I’ve never actually followed through with one of those Messenger calls because it’s usually a butt dial. But I retrieved my phone from the nether regions of my panties and saw it was my good friend “Lulu”. Lulu and I message every single day but have never actually talked to each other on the phone or met in person. It’s kind of weird that a chick I’ve never met before knows that I can’t put buttercream frosting anywhere near my vagina without followup medical intervention but I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Lulu and I had been messaging each other earlier, commiserating over our mutual elusive Sand Mans. She was cooking, I was starving and sleepless in bed. A coughing fit overtook me (I’m still sick) and I finally said to hell with it and got up when E threatened to (and I’m quoting) kick my coughy-y ass out of bed.
I answered my phone and said, “Did you ass dial me?” Turned out, she kind of neck/boob called me. She stressed no nipple was involved but I told her we could save that for the next time. We have to have something to look forward to.
I sounded like a Southern trucker due to my scratchy voice (Lulu said I didn’t but I think she was just being kind) but we were on the phone for a whole two hours, finally ending the call and going to bed at 4 a.m.
I’m kind of a loner. I know most of you won’t believe that but it’s true. I’d rather be home watching a movie with my kids any given night. I’d rather not get involved in the sticky details of someone else’s life because I have enough sticky details of my own. Issues? Oh, I’ve got ’em. Plus I’ve gotten back on another reading binge, which I always seem to do during the winter and I’ve learned over the years that people generally get offended when you bring a book to a get together. Going out or inviting someone over is just too much to ask at times plus I have to put clothes on. You know, normally.
But I’ve been trying these past several months to make myself break out of my comfort zone. Instead of replying to a friend’s stressed, cry for help Facebook post “Hey, let me know if you need anything”, I’ve made myself type “Do you need dinner tonight or tomorrow night?” or “‘What can I buy for us to drink together and when?”
This has resulted in sitting outside on my deck for so long with a girlfriend, drinking and talking, that we were able to get drunk and then sober up in the same night/morning. It’s led to me agreeing to be a substitute for a friend’s Bunco group, which I swore to never do again (that’s a Texas story I need to tell y’all sometime) and actually having a lovely time last week. It’s led to counseling a good friend from high school (or attempting to) about a troubled marriage and actually being there for him via messages when he finally had to make the gut wrenching choice to leave. It’s led to a 4 hour coffee date with a friend, holding her hand while she cried in Dunkin’ Donuts several weeks ago, confessing dark things we’d all rather keep to ourselves but just have to be admitted before it keeps us hostage in that dark place. It’s led to having coffee with another friend in a different coffee shop, laughing and crying over much more serious things than Bunco. Life altering things, big girl panties kind of things. It’s led to agreeing to go with a friend’s family this Thanksgiving Day to buy dessert for and help serve the homeless in downtown Birmingham a holiday meal.
It’s made me a better person.
Don’t get me wrong. A friend turning up on my doorstep unannounced is still kind of as perplexing to me as opening the door to a bag of flaming shit. But I’m getting better.
Call someone you haven’t called in a while today. Or better yet, call someone you’ve never called. Worst case scenario is awkward silence. Just blame it on this crazy red headed chick you know, say you accidentally ass dialed them, hang up, then put your phone back in your panties.
Have a good week, y’all.
I just wanted to say I love you, chick. 🙂
You just made my day! Seriously. Thank you. And I love you back, chick. You coming here for Manson inspired me to break out of my rut a bit. ❤